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Being a parent is a rewarding journey, but it can also be exhausting—especially when navigating mental health needs. At SUBIE, we remind you that you cannot pour from an empty cup. To be the best advocate for your child, you must also advocate for yourself.

Self-care doesn't always mean a spa day. Sometimes, it’s just 15 minutes of quiet.

• The "Pause": When things feel intense, step into another room and take five deep breaths.
• Daily Rituals: Find one small thing that is only for you—a hot cup of coffee, a short walk, or 10 minutes of a favorite podcast.

• Let Go of Perfection: Some days, "good enough" is a victory.
• You Are Not Alone: A mental health diagnosis is not a reflection of your parenting. It is often a combination of biology and environment. Give yourself the same compassion you give your child.

• Specific Asks: People often want to help but don't know how. Be direct: "Can you watch the kids for an hour so I can go to the grocery store alone?"
• Find Your Tribe: Connect with local groups like Carroll County Mental Health Advocates to talk with other parents who "get it."

To-do lists can feel overwhelming. At the end of the day, write down three things you did accomplish—even if it was just "staying calm during a meltdown" or "making a healthy dinner." Celebrate the small wins.

• Curate Your Feed: Unfollow accounts that make you feel "less than" or anxious. Follow accounts that provide hope and realistic parenting advice.
• Unplug: Set a "phone-free" hour before bed to help your own brain rest and recharge.

A Note to Parents:Your children are watching you. When you practice self-care, you are modeling healthy coping skills for them. By taking care of yourself, you are teaching them how to take care of themselves.